Some more thoughts, resources and links, following on from my last post on 'how to have a healthy blog conversation'.
Conrad sent me some links to Amy Gahran (who is a conversational media consultant) and her website and blog "Contentious" and "The Right Conversation". Some links to specific articles by her on conversation and blogs, are at the bottom of this post. Her insghts are well worth bookmarking, thanks Conrad for the heads up.
The book above (which is short, and very amusing), 'Talk to the Hand', got me thinking about respect, and manners, and inspired me to write the original post on healthy conversations on blogs. This is a great book that explores the growing rudeness of everyday life, the general lack of respect by everyone for everyone, seen in everyday interactions, all forms of media, and life in general. As you read it, you can see the general rudeness that so often pervades many blog posts and comments.
One thought that stuck with the most from the book, is the inability of people to say 'sorry' and 'thank you'. In original post I talked about the importance of common courtesy of responding to people. Here is a qoute from the book, at the end of the chapter on saying please, thank you and sorry;
"Please" and "Thank you" may not be so very hard to say, but they perform any number of sophisticated functions that are of no interest whatsoever to a growing number of people'
I get e-mailed regularly by people asking for information, papers, contacts, and sometimes a considered reply to a question. Many times when I reply, I am still amazed at how few people every say thank you. It doesn't engender me to reply to them when they write with further requests.
And I still suffer a mild form of shock that gives me that ready break glow from the person who doesn't think they are too important or too busy to ask politely, and respond with some gratitude. And at the risk of sounding like a Brian McLaren groupie, whilst his speaking and writing inspired me, what drew me to respect and learn from and work with him, was observing the depths of his character, and willingness to treat everyone with respect, and offer,' please, thank you, I'm sorry, how are you, great to hear from you' to his speech, writing and e-mails.
These days I am more inclined to listen to someone polite, than someone rude, no matter how smart they are.
Here are those links from Amy Gahran:
It's getting a bit tiresome to hear various major media thinkers ramble on about blogs, blogs, blogs as if blogs were a huge deal in and of themselves. Personally, I think they're all missing the point. I'm considering printing up t-shirts or buttons to make it clear: "Don't miss the conversation for the blogs." http://www.rightconversation.com/2006/01/missing_the_con.html
My colleague expressed a Zen-like principle. To paraphrase, his point was: â€œCredibility comes by releasing control over the conversation, because you gain credibility when you listen, and when you speak authentically.â€ http://www.rightconversation.com/2006/01/conversations_c.html
Iâ€™m trying to figure out a very sort way to convey the core concept and value of conversational media in, say, ten words or less. http://www.rightconversation.com/2006/01/the_elevator_sp.html updated more recently: http://www.rightconversation.com/2006/01/revisiting_the_.html